October 12, 2002 3:31 PM
Integrity and reality. Not false ideas or expectations. When you let assumptions go, speak what you feel, see that what others say is simply what they mean — you are in the moment. To pay attention is be grounded in reality without assuming or expecting anything. In a strong relationship, one person does not take advantage or abuse the other because both people have the same attitude . This is an attitide of : you are a whole person as am I. We are in the same direction because we choose it. In this relationship , everyone pulls their weight naturally and willingly. There is NO expectation from a partner. This includes things like affection and support and help around the house. The expectation for these things isn’t necessary if you are in the same direction.